NO Shades of Gray

I cringe whenever I see the media gush over a horrible movie that is about the poorly written porn ( please do NOT legitimize this trash by calling it "erotica." the degradation of women and the glorification of sexual sadists is NOT erotica. It is porn ) novels of "Fifty Shades of Grey."
Over half a life time ago I fell in love and had an affair with a rich, famous ( more so in the years after our breakup ) and drop dead gorgeous man. No, I won't go into the details but will say once I broke up with him things got really ugly. He went ballistic and stalked me for a few years. That was not pleasant.
I should have seen the red flags. He was selfish, self centered, jealous, possessive and rash. He acted more like a not very nice teenage boy rather than like a grown man. After I broke up with him ( in the early 1970s ) I lost my memory of him. When I remembered him and our relationship it was devastating. I did not know what to call it then but now know it was/is PTSD. It has been a hard time for me in recent days because of reliving the old memories, the old hurts.
 I HATE this movie and I hate the media's handling of it. I don't give a crap how many millions of copies of the books have been sold. I don't care how many people go and see the trashy movie that will opening on ( this is such an insult ) on Valentine's Day. Men abuse women and these books and this movie glorifies men who do that.
In the 1970s there were historical romance "bodice rippers" where the feisty young heroine is raped by the hero, the "rape fantasy." How many rape victims would see their rapist go free ( often to rape again ) because women on the jury had been reading "romances" where the hero ( handsome, rich, often titled ) would rape them and then at the end of the book they are married and live happily ever after?
These books, the media gushing over it as if it is so romantic and so sexy... it is dangerous. There will be naive women who will end up in hospitals, who will end up in the morgue because of this movie, because of these books. Beating, raping, violating women, tying them up and whipping them, chaining them as if they were a slave, what the hell is wrong with women who seem to think that because a book is a best seller and the media acts as if this behavior is ok, that it is somehow normal?
Men who abuse women sexually are sexual sadists and many are narcissist psychopaths. Shame on every woman who has read this trash and somehow thinks it is "romantic." There is nothing romantic of being the victim of abuse. There is nothing romantic about being stalked. And shame on you if you legitimize this trash by going to see the movie.
Whips and chains? Sorry. There are no shades of gray in me. There never has been and there never will be. I am a good woman. I am a loving and I hope, a kind woman. I am also no one's pushover. I am lucky because I grew up in a house where my parents loved, honored, cherished and respected each other. I know I have worth as a woman, as a human being.
50 Shades of Grey devalues women and promotes violence against us. Men like the one in this book ( and the man whom I had formerly been involved with over forty years ago ) do not have romantic conquests. They have victims.